Developing a Self-Assured Feminine Communication Style
The way you speak conveys a tremendous amount of information about who you are and how much value you have. Using your voice properly can help you hold attention, and make everyone listen to what you say.
There is nothing worse than listening to a woman who speaks with a high-pitched voice, who also finishes her sentences with an infliction. Straight away you discount everything she has to say as she does not even believe it!!
Follow these simple guidelines to improve the way people respond to your voice.
• Speak Low: Eliminate the nasally high-pitched voice. You need to find the lowest natural part of your speaking voice and emphasise that. Singers are often taught about singing from their belly, and you want to do the same thing. You want to be speaking from the chest and gut, which will sound lower and more resonant than speaking from your throat or head.
• Speak Loud: A male is not afraid of the sound of his own voice. He knows that what he is saying is worth listening to. Practice speaking, just a little louder than you’re used to. Project your words so people can hear you easily.
• Direct: Try to eliminate “ums” and “ahs” from your diction, as these words make you sound uncertain and weak. Take a pause instead of saying these things.
• Speak Slow: When someone panics, they usually speak faster. They’re in a rush, worried that they’re not going to be able to say everything they want to say. What you must realise is that rushed speech communicates low value. Alpha, dominant males speak slowly. They know that they can take their time because people will listen. Therefore, slow down. Take your time, and trust that what you’re saying is worth your audience’s time. Be aware of the tendency most people have to speed up when they get nervous, and squash this habit. In fact, when you notice yourself getting nervous, feel free to just stop, take a deep breath, and then continue at a slower pace. It’ll make you sound more in control, and that will help you feel more in control.
If you want people to listen and value what you have to say, follow these simple tips – loud, low, direct, and slow.
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Until next time…..
Be well and remember to make each day meaningful, memorable and magical………..and never, ever, ever stop dancing!
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