Welcome to the “Listen” edition of “It’s Sun Day: Your Day to Shine”

Did you know that most of us spend 70% to 80% of our waking hours in some type of communication? Of which 45% of that time is dedicated to listening.

Other studies have found that most of us are poor listeners. One study shows that after a 10-minute presentation only 50% of the information was retained.

The ability to listen well in any interaction is vital for us to thrive in all areas of your life.

The first step is to understand what listening is and how it differs from hearing.

Enjoy your ‘Listening’ Deep Dive Sun Day.

Take time to Celebrate You, Today and All Days!

Listening Vs Hearing

There is one basic difference between listening and hearing: 

Hearing is a physical act while listening is the act of hearing while also retaining and comprehending the information.

Your Ten-Step Guide to Better Listening

Face the speaker

Keep an open mind

Listen to ideas not words

Don’t interrupt

Wait for pause for questions

Ask questions

Be attentive

Feel speakers feelings

Give feedback

Pay attention to what is not said.

Now, Let’s explore ~ Consciously Lovingly Hearing.

Consciously Lovingly Hearing involves three major facets. When you actively practice these facets daily you’ll easily enhance your listening skills. They are:

1. The Way That You Talk to Yourself

Here are some questions for your to contemplate today:

• Would you say the same things to your bestie, as you do to yourself?
• Would they continue to be your bestie, after those conversations?
• Where do you feel the chatter is coming from: your beliefs, social norms, your friends, things that have happened in the past or unrealistic stereo types?

2. Listening to Others

Knowledge is power.  A lot of what you know today has come through listening and learning from others. Afterall, we don’t know what we don’t know. Though are you taking the time to listen to many different perspectives? Gathering all viewpoints before you decide what perspective is right for you?

3. Listening to Your Inner Knowing

Many times, we spend our time listening to others, taking their advice, course correcting to the latest trend, fad idea and we forget to listen to ourselves.

• To listen to what is right for us.
• To trust that we know what is best for us.
• To know our inner dreams and desires.
• To know what lights, us up and what dims our light.

It is afterall, Our Life! The more we tune into our inner knowing to more we will trust and know that we already have the answers inside of us. That when we listen and follow it, we will end up where we would like to be.

Having good listening skills will improve your whole life. Assisting you to live a joyous, happy, prosperous and fulfilled life, with many loving and meaningful relationships.

Now, that is a WRAP for Sun Day the 30th May 2021: Your Day to Shine.

Enjoy your day, deep diving into you and your listening habits.

Make Every Day, Meaningful Memorable and Magical.

Stay well and always remember that there is great love here for you.

With Love and Gratitude

Welcome to the “Emotional Deep-Dive” edition of “It’s Sun Day: Your Day to Shine”

Today, is Sunday the 23rd May 2021. Today is a 555 portal. When you add the day, month and year and reduce it to a single digit they individually add to 5. Day 2+3=5, Month =5 Year 2021 = 5.

The 555 portal is a gateway that opens to:

Major change, transformation, opportunities, love healing, harmony, freedom and higher consciousness.

So today’s theme is all about assisting you to deep diving into your emotions. So you may receive the gift from the past.

As then you may be ready to leave everything you know behind and be open to your inspiration that will transform your life into all of your hopes, dreams and aspirations.

Enjoy your Emotional Deep Dive Sun Day.

Take time to Celebrate You, Today and All Days!

Emotional Intelligence (EQ) from the Personal Competence Perspective

Today we will be looking at our Emotional Intelligence (EQ) from the Personal Competence Perspective which comprises your self-awareness and self-management skills.

• The Personal Competence Perspective focuses more on you individually than on your interactions with other people. Personal competence is your ability to stay aware of your emotions and manage your behaviour and tendencies.
• Self-Awareness is your ability to accurately perceive your emotions and stay aware of them as they happen. Knowing what you’re thinking and feeling and how this makes you behave ~ being ‘self-aware.’
• Self-Management is your ability to use awareness of your emotions to stay flexible and positively direct your behaviour. Being able to express your own feelings in the appropriate manner.

No one has the power to make you feel the way you do. Many times, we blame others for the way we feel, whereas in reality we are totally responsible for the way we react, respond and feel in any given situation. We all have our so-called buttons, when pushed, cause us to act or think in negative ways beyond our normal day-to-day selves. Ok, sometimes you feel it is an unconscious reaction and consciously you do not have the answers, as to why you may feel a certain way. Though the responsible thing to do is to figure out why you’re responding the way you do, in any given situation.

Today’s activities are designed to assist you in bringing self-awareness to better know, understand and heal your emotional buttons. Instead of becoming frustrated, know that your buttons are the keys to your growth.

Three Self-Awareness Exercises

1. Why Do I Do the Things I Do?

Start consciously monitoring the things that you’re doing and saying. This will assist you to tune into why you may be feeling the way that you do, in any given moment

• Ask yourself why do I do this?
• Is it for me or for someone else?
• What’s the purpose, is this the most important thing to be doing right now?

The answers will assist you tune into you, to focus and better know yourself.

2. Time to Tune into How I Feel Right Now

To get to know what you are feeling in any given moment, Several times during the day, allot 5 minutes in your calendar for you to close your eyes and tune into your body.

With your eyes closed, moving from the top of your head, scan down to tune into each part of body. The more you do this the more you will know your optimal health and well being.

Write down the emotion. Look at the Chaston Centre Emotions List.

Schedule these 5-minute reflections into your calendar say every 2 or 3 hours.

Notice how much more you achieve, each day through taking this 5 min check in!

3. Time to Reflect Upon My Daily Emotions

Before going to bed spend some time reflecting upon you’ve feelings throughout the day.

Create an emotions journal and break each page into two columns: the left one is for your emotions where you list them by the hour, the right one is for the context that surrounded that emotion. Once you’ve listed all emotions, start to compare and analyse them. What’s the ratio of positive vs negative emotions? Which emotions dominate and what causes them? What are their triggers?

This will allow you to see where emotions come from exactly in order to work on changing their triggers and reducing negative emotions by stopping them from arising.

Your health and wellness are correlated to the way you feel. When you pay attention to your feelings, you receive the messages they are sending. Assisting you to create the life you’re meant to live.

Here are two books the Chaston Centre highly recommend as they provide the guidance to assist you to pay attention to your feelings and then heal them:

• Louise Hay “You Can Heal Your Life.”
• Inna Segal “The Secret Language of Your Body

Awesome stuff!

Now, that is a WRAP for Sun Day the 23rd May 2021: Your Day to Shine.

Enjoy your day, deep diving inyo you and your emotions.

Make Every Day, Meaningful Memorable and Magical.

Stay well and always remember that there is great love here for you.

With Love and Gratitude

Today, whilst editing my new book, Demystifying Loss, I was guided to ask you this question:

“Have you taken the time to find Your True Life’s Essence?

My True Essence of Life ~ has nine components that are constant actions that are consistently front of mind, so I can live my life in Essence, true to the person I was born to be.

The essence of life is constant growth, every day, reminding yourself to keep moving, to be open to change, to all possibilities, to keep enquiring and always trying to be better than yesterday you (or Yesterday Me as I like to say).

In fact, some people go through an entire lifetime, missing the gist of it—lost in their many loss events, disoriented in their demanding life of avoidance and focusing on materialism and competition, living as I used to; “In their ground-hog daze.”

Have you taken the time to create your true essence of life?

Reach out if you would like to know the easiest way for you to do so.

Remember to Make Every Day, Meaningful Memorable and Magical.

Stay well and always know that there is great love here for you.

With Love and Gratitude

I was looking at my daughter-in-law, admiring what a great mother she is to my grandson. How she loves and respects him enough to treat and talk to him as an adult, even though he is only two. She takes the time to sit and explain to him all about their day. Assisting him to know that no matter where they are, he is loved and safe……… even when it’s dentist time! It made me think back to how I was when my children were a similar age. Initially I was sad that I was not like that. Though then I very quickly realised that I was a fabulous Mum (now and then). I was exactly the mother my boys required at that time.

They have all grown to be amazing adults (even Dan who is in Spirit). Men who respect women. Men who laugh a lot, are loving, kind and are successful in all that they do.

Isn’t that the perfect definition of being a successful parent?

So today I’d like to shed some light on the fact that when loss comes to visit, sometimes we have many unfounded regrets, mainly because we are not comparing apples with apples.

Can you relate? When you look at your greatest Loss. what are some of your regrets? What are some of the things that you wished that you had done differently? Take a sec and write them down.

Then ask yourself, knowing what you know now, what would you do differently? What would you say? How would you act?

Then, visually travel back to who you were then.

• What was going on in your life?
• What were you not aware of then, that you are now?
• Who were you mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually?

It’s important for us to always know that every day, we always make the best decisions, the most ideal choices, based on the facts that we have in front of us.

Though, as time goes on we learn and grow. We start to see things from a different perspective. We start to realise that, if I had known then what I know now I would have made different choices. I would have been braver, smarter, more loving and more successful in all areas of my life.

That is why many regrets (especially after Loss comes to visit) are unfounded. We are not comparing apples with apples.

Give yourself a HUG, take a Conscious Loving Breath and know that you did what you were meant to do, then.  Then take another Conscious loving Breath and know that this realisation is not an excuse, an out, to give up on your current dreams.

I have found that the best way to make a dream become a reality is to ask yourself “When I am ninety, sitting overlooking my lake and looking back at my life, how will I feel if I do not fulfill this dream?”

That feeling (for me and hopefully now for you) is enough to ensure that I take every step to make my dreams happen. So, if you are stuck in the regrets and not taking the steps toward fulfilling your dreams, now is the time for you to hit the reply and reach out.

As life is way too short for you to be stuck, regretful and not living and loving your dream life,

Remember to Make Every Day, Meaningful Memorable and Magical.

Stay well and always know that there is great love here for you.

With Love and Gratitude