I was looking at my daughter-in-law, admiring what a great mother she is to my grandson. How she loves and respects him enough to treat and talk to him as an adult, even though he is only two. She takes the time to sit and explain to him all about their day. Assisting him to know that no matter where they are, he is loved and safe……… even when it’s dentist time! It made me think back to how I was when my children were a similar age. Initially I was sad that I was not like that. Though then I very quickly realised that I was a fabulous Mum (now and then). I was exactly the mother my boys required at that time.
They have all grown to be amazing adults (even Dan who is in Spirit). Men who respect women. Men who laugh a lot, are loving, kind and are successful in all that they do.
Isn’t that the perfect definition of being a successful parent?
So today I’d like to shed some light on the fact that when loss comes to visit, sometimes we have many unfounded regrets, mainly because we are not comparing apples with apples.
Can you relate? When you look at your greatest Loss. what are some of your regrets? What are some of the things that you wished that you had done differently? Take a sec and write them down.
Then ask yourself, knowing what you know now, what would you do differently? What would you say? How would you act?
Then, visually travel back to who you were then.
- What was going on in your life?
- What were you not aware of then, that you are now?
- Who were you mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually?
It’s important for us to always know that every day, we always make the best decisions, the most ideal choices, based on the facts that we have in front of us.
Though, as time goes on we learn and grow. We start to see things from a different perspective. We start to realise that, if I had known then what I know now I would have made different choices. I would have been braver, smarter, more loving and more successful in all areas of my life.
That is why many regrets (especially after Loss comes to visit) are unfounded. We are not comparing apples with apples.
Give yourself a HUG, take a Conscious Loving Breath and know that you did what you were meant to do, then. Then take another Conscious loving Breath and know that this realisation is not an excuse, an out, to give up on your current dreams.
I have found that the best way to make a dream become a reality is to ask yourself “When I am ninety, sitting overlooking my lake and looking back at my life, how will I feel if I do not fulfill this dream?”
That feeling (for me and hopefully now for you) is enough to ensure that I take every step to make my dreams happen. So, if you are stuck in the regrets and not taking the steps toward fulfilling your dreams, now is the time for you to hit the reply and reach out.
As life is way too short for you to be stuck, regretful and not living and loving your dream life,
Remember to Make Every Day, Meaningful Memorable and Magical.
Stay well and always know that there is great love here for you.
With Love and Gratitude