It’s so easy to blame everyone else for the mess we may find ourselves in. We may blame our parents for our low self-esteem and we may blame our current partner for exacerbating it with their unconscious behaviour. This totally makes sense when you consider, it is not our fault if our parents were irresponsible or unkind, and we are not to blame for our partner’s bad behaviour.
Yet when you continue to blame everyone else for the events that have brought you to who you are today, you are not taking any responsibility. Yes, that is right, blaming others is the opposite of taking responsibility. Though at the same time, we may not understand how to take responsibility for things that we don’t truly feel responsible for.
For ten long years, Holly had the perfect excuse as to why she was a drug addict. She was one of five children, four girls and a boy and all of them were addicted to something.
Her mother, Mary was a child of two addicts. Her grandmother was an alcoholic and her grandfather a gambler and alcoholic. Mary did the best in raising her five children though she was starting from a low base.
You see Mary and her sister Marge would work summer jobs every year and save every penny. Only to have their father clear out their bank accounts and then gamble it all away.
Mary’s husband was a hard worker. Worked two jobs. Leaving home at 5am and returning at 11pm. Mary was really a single parent. She did not know how to show the love that each of her five children required. She did not know how to raise their self-esteem, self-worth and self-love.
How could she, she was never shown these from her parents.
Holly came to a crossroad in her life. She looked at her children and she saw the faces of her siblings. She realised that she had to break the pattern. She loved her children too much to condemn them to her life.
She had to take responsibility for her life… all of it. She had to figure out how to be free.
I have met so many people who share Holly’s story. Some come to a realisation that they can create their better life. The one they know they deserve.
Some unfortunately do not.
Can you relate to Holly? Are you at a crossroads, wondering how you can move beyond your current situation?
If so reach out today. As now is the perfect time for you to break the cycle. Heal all your past wounds and create a life that you live and love, each and every day.
Make Every Day, Meaningful Memorable and Magical.
Stay well and always remember that there is great love here for you.
With Love and Gratitude