Actually, as humans we have been taught to compare losses in order to minimise our feelings. The most ideal way to remember that as all humans are unique, so is every relationship we have, therefore the intensity of the loss and then the recovery will also be unique.

Death provokes an intensity of grief and suffering that cannot be duplicated while the loved one is still alive.

Divorce is the death of the relationship. The end to the family unit. An end to all the accompanying hopes dreams and aspirations, in regard to the future we had planned together. In some ways divorce can be harder to accept than a death. With a death you know that the physical relationship is over.

Whereas with divorce, there can sometimes be one party who is wishing and hoping for the physical relationship to never end.

This in itself can hinder the recovery process. We must always remind ourselves that loss is an inevitable part of life and grief is the normal and natural response to it.

Grief is a human response that lets us know that for the moment things are different than they were before the loss. Yet it is normal to feel lost, dazed, confused, and frustrated when major losses affect our lives.

Though remember that nothing can change until we take responsibility for our own recovery. It can be so easy to go into the BLAME Game.

If you’ve been reading my emails for a while, you have probably gathered by now that I love breaking down words. Its like they are breadcrumbs left along our pathway in order to show us the most ideal way to live our lives.

So lets break down BLAME.