What to do/say when we lose things?

Have you ever noticed that we are taught how to acquire things not what to do when we lose them?

I have found that most people are not comfortable around people who are going through a loss situation.

Be it a death of a loved one. Marriage breakdown. Career hiccups. Health scares.

Or one of the 40 different loss events that can occur in our lives.

When my son, Dan suddenly passed in July 2011, I had many people say the most inappropriate things to me.

Things like: “Be thankful you have other sons.” “He is in a better place.” “You’re a strong woman, you’ll cope with anything that comes your way.”

As a Beyond Loss Life coach, today, I understand that whilst well intended, it was because of their grief ignorance that they said thoughtless comments.

Today, I’m sharing the most appropriate thing that you can do and say the next time you encounter someone who is grieving from any kind of loss.

Firstly, acknowledge their loss. Show you care.

Then, don’t try to fix them.

Just say, “I don’t know what to say. I can’t imagine how you feel. Though I’m here for you. To Just listen. Whenever you feel like talking.”

Then follow through. Just be there and listen.

Hope this helps. 

Comment below your thoughts and experiences with loss.


Until next time…..


Be well and remember to make each day meaningful, memorable and magical………..and never, ever, ever stop dancing!


With Love & Gratitude
Karen Chaston.

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